One day as I walked down the street I saw a little girl of four or five years having a tantrum and hitting her mother. The mother was very angry and said “if you hit me, tonight you are on the street”. The little girl stopped.
I asked myself:
- If the girl didn’t stop, would the mother really put her on the street?
- If not, will the threat still work?
- How does the little girl imagine the street at night?
A friend of mine told me that when she was about seven her mother told her “if you do that you are out of the car”. My friend opened the door and walked away. The mother, feeling helpless, got out of the car and ordered my friend to get back in.
Have you heard sentences such as these?
- “if you don’t change I will leave you”
- “if you do this I will kill myself”
- “if you don’t pass this exam you can’t have a holiday”
- “if you don’t listen you can’t have a bicycle”
- “if you do that again I will throw you out of the house”
- “if you don’t stop you will get a hiding”
- “if you tell anyone about this, you’re dead”
Sometimes people will try to get a quick result without thinking through the right way to achieve what they want.
What is a threat?
It is to try to get what one wants by frightening others.
Why threaten?
People try to frighten others because of their own fear, or because they have learned it from their parents or other people.
The damage done:
- Threatening someone will only either undermine trust, or put you in a dead corner. It also sets a bad example to others.
- Resentment and disharmony will remain.
- A threat has the potential to damage mental health especially in children.
- Whatever the outcome, a threat damages both parties. Either the threatened person gets frightened into obedience but is left with fear and resentment or the threat doesn’t work and the person making it is left in a dead end. Both cases plant the seeds of depression.
- Subconsciously, a threat relies on the belief that everything has a price.
- A threat brings disharmony into all aspects of a relationship.
- To threaten is to misuse one’s own power at other peoples’ expense.
- A threat plants the seeds of ill will and reprisal.
- A threat plants the seeds of depression. It can bring worry, fear, anger and grief.
In Chinese Medicine:
- Worry can damage the stomach and spleen energy, leading to stagnation.
- Fear can damage the kidney energy.
- Anger can damage the liver and heart energy.
- Grief and resentment can damage the lungs.
All these emotions can lead to depression.
What can be done?
It is important to ask ourselves what we are afraid of.
- What might happen and what would be the worst?
- How do we face our fear?
- How should we behave?
- For example if you are afraid your children will not listen to you then you must first make sure you are listening to them. Always be sure to explain to them the reasons kindly, reasonably and wisely.
- Do not misuse your power to push those around you down. Especially with children, who are dependent and vulnerable.
- A threat can be counter-productive.
Wise persons will maintain their own mental health to help the people around them.
True love does not ask for reward. Threatening — what are you asking for?
Traditional Qi’s two concepts are prevention and wisdom.
Written by Angela Zhu, Traditional Chinese Medicine practitioner, Qi Gong & Tai Chi instructor.
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The question nerwass itself here When in deep meditation, what is your mind doing? It is best to cause the question to answer itself by, a condition called centering’. As you clear your mind, attempt to go inward as far as you can. During this exercise you will see’ a small light at the end of the tunnel’. The further into this you go, you will find you are focusing on a point. It is this point of light that is the target, destination, and center. The object is to pass through to the other side. You will find you progress as you try to do this, and your other questions will be answered.Humanity Healing web site and over fifty years of study. Too many differing texts to list.
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